I. DON'T. UNDERSTAND. WHY. Why do some guys choose to confess to a girl, with no intention. Like just telling the girl he like her for the sake of saying it. Don't you confess to someone, telling her that you like her, so that you may start a relationship with her if possible? You confess to a person because you like that person and you on your part are ready to start a relationship. No? If not tell me why. Seriously. You tell a girl you like her and you don't plan to do anything after that. Whether you like it or not, admit it man. The friendship will be affected. It'll be awkward for the girl. She can't forget what you've told her. And I'm talking in the scenario whereby the girl doesn't reciprocate the similar feelings. So then, every time she sees you now, she'll be reminded of it.
No, don't tell me a close friendship is still possible blah blah blah. It's not. At least for the time being after the guy has confessed. Some may say that it's possible. But it's either she's to fight the awkwardness, or she's just plain leading the guy on. Things like she hopes the guy continues to like her blah blah blah. Sure, drama. Cause I've seen too much of such girls anyway. Not saying this part to anyone in particular, lest they deem me trying to badmouth anyone in particular either. You sure it's possible? Think again. The girl may seem that she doesn't really bother but she actually feels disturbed to an extent. Small or large, depending on how important the guy is to her as a friend. Why is she disturbed? Because she worries if what she does gives him false hope. And because of that very fact. That's to a large extent. And probably that's because the guy's really an important friend. If it's to a small extent, then I guess she didn't really thought of him as a (good) friend in the first place.
And yes, because she worries what if she still treats him the usual as before, gives him false hope. After all, isn't it how the two people get along that the guys grows an attraction towards her? So then she grows colder to him, and slowly, that's how friends drift. Isn't it? And then when he finally gets over her, it's hard to get back to how close the two were before as friends. Not saying that it's not possible, but it's hard. "As long as both really want to be really really good friends, they'll overcome it." Circumstances has made me believe that it's almost impossible, because it's easier said than done. Be it girl-girl or guy-girl friendship.
So what am I trying to say here? What I'm trying to get across is that; Guys. Before you decide you want to confess to a girl, would you please make sure that you really like her and would really want to start a relationship with her, and that's the only reason why you'll ever confess to a girl that you like? If not, just keep your mouth sealed tightly and keep those feelings in your heart because by confessing just for the sake of confessing will eventually cost you this really close girl friend that you once shared so much memories with. Don't ever let your raging hormones tell you that you'll feel good after you confess, because just think again, you won't. Unless you're prepared to lose this close friend after confessing, if not just hold your peace and keep mum about it.
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